Hording Toys

Sometimes, when your child is unwilling to release control of toys, he may hoard them. If he is hoarding toys, she is not really playing with them. You may see that he is simply collecting toys and holding on to as many as he can. Some children literally carry handfuls of toy pieces or cram toys into their pockets. Alternatively, he may be putting them in a hiding place or personal place to prevent other children from playing with them. You will need to intervene and help her make choices and then become involved with play.

 

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What Should You Know As A Mom?

The mother’s responsibilities do not lie on the vicious circle of feeding her kids, making sure that they grow well as adults alone, it spreads even more than that. If you are a single mom you will have to handle even more. You must have to work hard to earn your bread and to take care of all other expenses. However, spending for daily food and shelter would be a demanding situation if you are the sole parent for your kids. You must learn to take care of your kids and handle your work pressure at the same time. You can find much useful info about being a perfect mom at moms.com.

 

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Why is mom’s love so special?

If you had the opportunity to spend your childhood with your mom then you might remember how much you need your mom in every occasion whether it was happy, sad or excited moments.

•   You might even remember the times when you needed your mom’s hug when you were terrified of the dark or when a thunder crashed in the middle of the night.

•   You might even remember how safe you felt when your mom embraced you and said that everything was fine and you need not worry about anything.

•   During such scenario, it might not be possible for you to overcome your fear and grow as a confident individual.

•   As the first teacher of the child, a mother has various responsibilities. You are responsible for molding your child as a caring and respectable individual.

•   You have to imbibe the best qualities in your child while he or she is growing as the child tends to grow by grasping all the good and bad things by seeing the people with whom they spend most of the time.

•   As a mother, you might be spending a lot of time with your child and hence make sure you stay a role model for your child.

•   It is essential for you to make an array of sacrifices like spending some time for yourself, not attending the party of your close friend as you have a baby to nurse or much more.

•   However, these sacrifices would seem meaningful when you see that you child has grown as a responsible kid and make you proud.

Hence, make sure that you play the role of a mom to the fullest and feel confident that you are doing a better job.

Effective Discipline

It’s a constant test of patience and battle of wits when you’re raising kids. But psychologist says that the best way to deal with a misbehaving tot is to arm yourself with logic, knowledge of appropriate consequences, and a dose of creativity. They said, Different things work for different children, and the bigger issues is about how serious parents are in following through. This part takes much effort, and the more effort parents put in, the less nagging they need to do.

Nagging is generally a waste of effort if kids are limited to words. They need their parents’ consistent follow through. Children between ages two and six cannot be expected to know what to do. Routines are still being established at this stage, and they are naturally curious about anything and everything around them. Thus, they often need constant and step-by-step guidance. This, too, takes much time and effort on the parents and caregivers.

Turning Off “Old Mommy Yeller”

Discover these tried and tested tips on dealing with defiance and high test naughtiness without having to strain your vocal cords.

You know you’ve become a true-blue parent when you’ve earned expert points in making up the most innovative rules that border on irrational (“I won’t buy the toy you want if you don’t brush your teeth this minute!”), not to mention outrageous (“If you won’t stop crying, the security guard will take you away”). And when all else fails, you nag, scold and yell (in that particular order) in the hopes of getting your message across. Still, your little one stands unfazed and unwilling (more like not convinced) to cooperate.

You would want so much to deal with the matter with iron hands, but you’ve heard or read every child development and parenting expert say that one wrong reaction will break your child’s spirit and self-esteem. You also find yourself too spent to raise your voice or utter words of anger one more time.

How Babies Sleep

A baby’s sleep pattern early in life typically involves from two to four hours of sleep at a time, followed by a period of wakefulness, a pattern that may recur around the clock with no regard to whether it’s day or night. Your baby has spent the first nine months of her existence in your uterus, where it is always dark, and it will take her a while to associate light with activity and with being awake and alert to what’s going on around her.

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Differences in sleep patterns among adults are very normal. The same is true among babies. Though certain patterns are average, a deviation from that pattern is usually still quite normal. Just like everyone else, babies are individuals. Most babies begin to demonstrate a rudimentary but recognizable personality at an early age. You would hear your friends say things like:

“She is a happy baby.”
“He is a fussy baby.”
“She is a placid baby.”
“He is so alert and interested.”

They also show their recognizable differences in other ways, and one of these is in sleep patterns. So if you know someone with a baby the same age as yours who sleeps more, or less, or simply at different hours, don’t worry about it. We’re all different, and babies are too.

Teach Your Child Skills for Coping

Are you finding that your six-year-old daughter/son still has many temper tantrums and episodes when she/he loses control? Think she/he should be “over it” by now? Is she/he very compliant and quick to calm down and respond to your guidance? Can you easily help her solve problems and manage the crisis, when you’re there? But the problem is, when you are not around, she/he can-not control her own behavior? You know you will not be able to hover over her/him every waking moment. What can you do?

Helping Your Child with Self-Control

Much of parenting is about connecting with your child and guiding your child’s behavior. You must intervene to stop or redirect your child when her/his behavior is inappropriate or unsafe, much as a police officer would. Children without self-control may behave appropriately in your presence but continue to act out or sneak things when you are not there. Of course, you cannot always be there; eventually your child needs to make independent choices and control her own behavior. This is the goal of self-control, to internalize rules and standards of behavior.
There are many skills for your child to master to learn self-control. In many cases, you can provide experiences of direct instruction to promote self-control. You do not have to wait for opportunities to occur naturally.

Tips to Prevent a Public Temper Tantrum

Engage your child. Even when the errand is not of interest to him, you can interact with him and keep his interest. Simply ask questions such as, “Who do you think could wear such teeny shoes?” or “How amny people can you can count in our line?”

Involve him.

A child who is involved with the activity is less likely to become bored, restless, or frustrated. You might let him hold the coupon book or sort the items by color. Older children can help bag groceries and may even be able to contribute ideas for the day’s agenda.

 

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Have an emergency kit.

Bring a little backpack or tote with age-appropriate items for times when your child has to wait or may be restless or cranky. Depending on your child’s interests, it may include sticker books, picture books, handheld games, and more. Keep this in your car so it is readily available. Be sure to rotate items to maintain interest.

Rock-a-Bye Baby

It is a natural motion for babies, they want to rock. Many babies, in fact, naturally rock themselves. They move their bodies back and forth in rhythmic rocking motions as an apparent means of calming themselves to sleep. Some babies even do this in their sleep. Some also bang their heads deliberately against the headboard or side of the crib at the same time as they are rocking themselves so keep this in mind. This bears out the value of rocking a child to sleep, a technique parents through the ages have used with success.

This rhythmic rocking some babies engage in, though it may be associated in some cases with medical problems (ex. Autism), is in most cases not in any way s symptom of any sort of medical condition. Most babies who engage in this type of ricking behavior are perfect normal. So, don’t be alarmed if you witness your child rocking in her crib or at other times when she is tired.

If your child is rocking there is no need to stop her, though you should remove any hard or sharp objects that she might hurt herself on. Safety padding the place where she bangs her head is advisable, too. In most cases of babies who rock themselves, the child outgrows the behavior naturally by age two.

Good Nap Habits

Naptime is a good time for your little one to realize that life goes on even when he’s napping and he will have to learn to sleep through some distractions. Though you want your baby to sleep well during his naptime, don’t hush all noise in the house during his naptime, either. To begin with, it probably is not even feasible. If you live in an area where there’s daytime traffic or other street noises, there may be passing cars, truck horns, kids playing in the street, garbage trucks, and other sounds coming in through the windows. In the second place, there will be noise within the house as well. The phone is likely to ring and perhaps the doorbell, too. If you have an older child, perhaps a toddler or three or four-year-old, he’s likely to play noisily, call “Mom!” from one room to the next, turn on the TV to watch his favorite program, run loudly toward the bathroom, or otherwise keep the house from being silent. You, too may make some noise of your own. You’re likely to have music or the TV on, make phone calls while you have some peace and quiet, clatter around in the kitchen, perhaps even run the vacuum, the sewing machine, or some other equipment that raises the decibel level in the house. All this is good.

To begin with, it will differentiate daytime naps from nighttime sleep, when the house and the outdoors are quieter. Second and just as important, it will get your baby accustomed to sleeping through noise.

So go ahead, run the blender or the food processor, the vacuum or the sewing machine, the television or the stereo. Let your older child turn on the television, and if she wants to sing along with Barney or Oscar the Grouch at the top of her lungs, let her, as long as she’s not in or right outside the baby’s room. Let the noise proceed as usual. You can stop your older child from going into the baby’s room and yelling. This is particularly relevant if the baby is sharing a room with older sibling, who at 2 1/1 years of age, is intent on running into the room to retrieve a toy while calling out to you and is mindless of the fact that the baby is sleeping in there. But while you wouldn’t want to vacuum in the baby’s room while he sleeps, don’t plunge the house into total silence, either.

You Can’t Go It Alone

Do you have a few friends who haven’t yet given your baby presents and are asking you what you need? Here’s a thought: Tell them,

“We have all the clothes and toys for her that we need. What I really need is a break. Some sleep. Some rest. You really want to give us something? Give us some respite. Watch the baby while I take a nap, or watch her while we go out for dinner.”

Going out for dinner won’t help the sleep situation, of course, but it will give you a much-needed break that may be as useful as a few hours of Zzzz.

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Who else can you call on for respite? Do you have relatives, your parents, a sibling, who live in the area? How about enlisting your best friend, and a few other friends, too? What about a paid babysitter?

None of these is likely to be able to help you overnight. After all, you don’t really want to ask your mom, sister, or friend to endure a sleepless night while you slumber peacefully. But they could watch your baby by day while you catch a much-needed nap.