Healthy Parent-Child Relationship

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Say you’re sorry when you make a mistake or lose your temper.
Nobody’s perfect, even you, and he should know that. By apologizing, you’re establishing a level of honesty between you and your child, and demonstrating that you care enough to have her understand what you are feeling. And what better way could there be for a child to learn about owning up to her own mistakes.

Play and have fun together.
Enjoying each other in play helps rekindle your love. Sharing good times will make the roguh patches easier to handle.

Create a child-friendly home.
Make an effort to ensure that your young child can move freely throughout your house without fear of damaging something precious and without fear of disapproval. Make sure your home is a place where he can be happy and comfortable.

Express anger appropriately.
Show your child your own problem-solving skills and model how anger should be handled.
Never hit your child.
This will only demonstrate that you will overpower him instead of teaching him the right way to handle anger.

Positive Communication

A child’s self-esteem is based on a positive relationship with parents and eventually teachers. Parents can foster that can-do attitude in their children with a “wow” or “That is great” every time they accomplish a feat. These positive comments form children’s first concept of success, which ultimately leads to a healthy self-perception. I grew up fine, but I remember that in my growing-up years, one thing I suffered from where the many don’ts from my parents. Thus, I resolved that I would try to be different with my own children. Putting my children’s feelings and self-esteem should always be a primary consideration.

 

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But praise and positive reinforcement alone will not make children feel better automatically. Providing them with lots of love, care and understand is equally significant. Children who are happy and confident may still experience low self-esteem because they do not feel loved. Likewise, children who are loved and pampered at home may still feel inadequate and incompetent, thus ending up with low self-esteem. Hence, a balance of both should be present. Delivering positive messages and engaging in constructive communication lead to a healthy self-perception.

No Rules or No Limitations?

If you choose to set very few or no limitations on your child’s behavior, he will have a difficult time learning safe, appropriate behavior and self-control. You are handling over to your child the control to regulate his own behavior. This parenting style or approach is known as permissive parenting. Permissive parents will usually establish very few rules and often do not consistently enforce the rules that they have set. Due to a lack of your child’s experience, and his cognitive and emotional immaturity, this approach is rarely effective and is bound to be a disaster. Can you imagine what would happen if you said to your toddler, “I have laid out your pajamas for you. I trust you to know when you are tired. You can decide when you are ready to go to be.” Or “I see that your teeth are bothering you. Let me know if you wish to go to the dentist.”

When your child fails at regulating his own behavior, she will be more likely to have outbursts and temper tantrums and to lose his self-control. He will not be making independent decisions. Eventually, he will rely on others to control her decisions and actions. If you do not set and enforce limits for him, school or law authorities may need to do so later on in his life.

Children Need Limits, Believe It or Not

Your child has a deep-rooted need for limits on his behavior. The limits and boundaries that you set for your child’s behavior will make him feel secure. Some children will directly will directly ask for guidance or limits if they feel the need them. This is particularly true when a child is in a new situation where there may be less structure and rules. A child who is raised with a lot of structure and rules may enter a more lax environment and start to ask, “Is it okay if I….? “Are we allowed to … ? You may even witness your child putting himself in time-out when he gets upset. He may ask you what is allowed or acceptable in a given situation. He needs to know that an adult is there to guide him and keep him safe and in control. When he is feeling confused, scared, frustrated, angry, or overwhelmed, he will count
on your to guide him with authority and control.

Setting limits and boundaries on your child’s behavior does not mean taking away her freedom. You can still allow your child to have many choices within the parameters that you set. For example, “Playing ball in the street is not safe. You can play ball or another game that you choose, but you must stay in the yard.”

Read Green

Reading is a big part of most children’s lives, and books and magazines are a good way to interest children in the environment. Child sake offers lists of environmental and nature books for children, organizing them by category (www.childsake.com). Your local librarian may also have some suggestions. Magazines introduce kids to environmental topic in quick gulps. Ranger Rick, Kids Discover, and National Geographic Kids give children the opportunity to learn about all different aspects of the natural world around them and ways to take care of it. The internet also offers an array of sites that teach environment lessons. Many state and local regulatory agencies have pages expressly for children.

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Men’s Tux: How To Choose The Right One

When it comes to choosing the right men’s tuxedo for a prom, your own wedding, as a wedding guest or for other types of special occasions, it is important for you to know what you should look for in a tux, and how to choose the perfect one for the occasion.

The Best Tuxedos For The Prom

I find that one-button tuxedos are ideal to wear to the prom. When you are looking to buy a tux for the prom, you will first want to know what type of dress your date will be wearing and then try to get a tux in a color that will coordinate with her dress. For example, if your date’s dress is purple, then a one-button black tux with a purple tie will be ideal to wear.

A Tux For The Groom

Do you need a men’s tux designed for a groom to wear because you are getting married? If so, then you may be want to get either a two-button or three-button tuxedo. A dark black tux or a white tux with a little bit of black in it is ideal tuxes to wear on your big day. You will want to buy a tuxedo that coordinates with the theme of the wedding, as well as one that stands out from the other tuxes that are being worn by guests. However, you should look at tuxes and try a few on before you purchase one, because this will give you a good idea of what one will look the best on you when the big day arrives.

Wedding Party Member Tuxes

It does not matter if you are a guest at a wedding, if you’re an usher, the best-man, groomsman, ring bearer or the father-of-the-bride, you will need the perfect tux for the big day. You will want to choose the tie carefully, as well as the undershirt and the suit jacket. There are many choices on the market today. You will want to have an idea of what types of tuxes will be worn at the wedding, and then wear a similar one, as you want your suit to coordinate with the other suits that will be worn that day. This means that you will want to pay attention to weather people are wearing a one, two, three or four-button tux, as well as if they are wearing a bow-tie or a full-length tie, as well as the color of the pants that are going to be worn on the wedding day. Knowing all of these things can help you choose the ideal tuxedo for the wedding that you will be attending.

Tuxedos For Special Occasions/Events

There may be a special occasion or event that is coming up, such as a black-tie event, or an important dinner, and if that is the case, then a casual-looking men’s tux is probably what you want to consider renting or purchasing.

If you keep this information in mind, you will find it easy to choose the best tux for a wedding, prom or any special occasion.

About the author:

Alfred Day just went to his prom in the best suit around, and wrote about the process of finding it.

 

Place To Take Your Toddler in the Philippines

Manila Ocean Park
Address: Behind the Quirino Grandstand Luneta, Manila, Philippines
Park schedule: Weekends and holidays 9 am to 9 pm.
Weekdays (Mondays-Fridays) 10am-9pm.
Ticket counter closes at 8:15pm

 

Manila Ocean Park

 

Manila Ocean Park is like a giant underwater playground. For the first time in Manila, you can bring your kid to have a firsthand live encounter with the diverse marine creatures indigenous to the Philippines and Southeast Asia. Enjoy seeing your toddler’s various reactions, amazement, excitement and even fear throughout the Oceanarium’s self-paced tour of giant aquariums, coral reefs and live marine exhibits. Don’t forget to interact with starfish and sea cucumber in the Agos (Flow) area, which is the first aquarium exhibit that features the natural flow of water from land to sea. The highlight of the tour is the 25 meter-long tunnel, where you can see different fishes, including stingrays and sharks above and around you.

 

 

Manila Ocean Park

 

Most of the Oceanarium aquarium facilities are air-conditioned and covered except for Agos (Flow) area. Paths are wide enough so you can bring strollers, although there are no ramps (just stairs) leading up to the exit of the Oceanarium, as well as in the Agos area. Photo and video cameras are allowed except for flash photography because it would scare marine animals. Food and beverages are not allowed in the premises except for infant formula. Popular fast-food outlets like Chowking, North Park etc., are available.

Photo source: www.manilaoceanpark.com

Specific Issues to Keep in Mind

When a relative is caring for your child, there may be specific issues that arise that can lead to your child’s having a temper tantrum. Most problems will occur because there is a lack of consistency between your child-rearing philosophy and approach and that of the relative caregiver. Almost any difference between the way you and the relative interact with your child can open the door for her to test limits. An older child in particular will look for exceptions and caveats to the rules that she may have at home. By establishing consistent discipline policies that match what you do at home, you can avoid the famous whine, “But Grandma lets me… “

A relative caregiver may wish to ensure that the child has fun and enjoys his company. Therefore, he may feel guilty or reluctant to enforce the rules and limits that you have set. Reassure him that there are ways that he can spoil or treat your child without allowing your child to break or bend the guidelines you have set for appropriate behavior.

Caribbean Spice and Babies

We’ve all heard that eating a hot curry could help kick start labour if you’re uncomfortable, overdue at willing to try anything to speed things along. Whether it’s an old wives tale or not, there is actually some science behind it, the subject of babies and spicy foods has received much debate, even amongst the professionals.

So, I’ve looked into when babies can and should be able to taste spicy foods and then come up with a few gentle ways that you can introduce some more exotic foods into your baby’s diet.

Like we said said there’s no hard and fast rule as to when babies are ‘allowed’ to try spicy foods, some mums on forums across the internet are letting their babies try spicy foods from as young as 8 months but other sources suggest not to try until they’re at least 12 months old. Some dieticians say that as a child’s intestinal system will be more developed and able to digest spicy meals then 2 years old is best but others suggest introducing it earlier on will build up a tolerance for spicier foods.

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It will vary from baby to baby and no one knows your child better than you do. So if your baby tends to be sensitive to new foods then maybe hold off for a few months. When introducing spice do this in moderation and start with the mild aromatic spices like cinnamon and coriander. Introduce one spice at a time so that if it does trigger either an allergy or upset their tummy then you can isolate the cause and avoid it in future.

Times have changed and mums are becoming more open to introducing exotic and varied foods into their baby or child’s diet. There’s a general consensus that if you eat spicy foods during pregnancy and breast feeding then your baby will have already built up a tolerance and even a taste for spicier flavours.

It’s important for children to develop a healthy relationship with food and this includes eating foods of all different kinds not to mention from all different countries around the world.

It doesn’t have to be hard work introducing new food to your baby, just give them a little bit of whatever you’re eating as long as it’s not too hot and spicy. There’s a difference between aromatic spices and hot spices. Hot spices like chilli may be too overpowering for young babies and children as they may cause the mouth and brain to interpret the taste as painful because of all the clever things that happen when we taste food, like the way it stimulates our pain receptors and this may be a stronger reaction in babies and children.

Stick to aromatic spices first of all like ginger, garlic, dill, cumin and turmeric as these are much softer on the palette. Then slowly introduce hot spices a tiny bit at a time to build up a tolerance of the different flavours. If you introduce too much too fast then your child might be put off for a long time.

But, don’t be scared of introducing spices and exotic flavours into your baby’s diet. Countries like India, Latin America and the Caribbean have been doing it for thousands of years and not only does this mean you’ll expand your baby’s palette making it much easier to feed them later on, spices equal flavour so you can cut down on the sugar and salt needed to make their food taste good.

So, as we can see there’s a lot of debate over the exact age babies should try spicy foods but know one knows your baby as well as you do so there is no right or wrong answer and what’s best for one baby might not be best for another.

If you do want to start introducing a bit of pizzazz into your baby’s daily diet then start off gently with mild spiced rice and beans with a bit of gravy, or mashed sweet potatoes with a few aromatic spices added. There are loads of fantastic and delicious Caribbean recipes available and if you change up just a few of the ingredients and mash them up slightly they can be perfect for babies too.
About the author:

Ian Garstang is a seasoned traveler and budding chef. When not entertaining his two children with exotic dishes, he specialises in luxury property marketing working with amazing developments such as Zemi Beach Luxury Resort and Real Estate.

When and How to Read to Your Toddler

Experts recommend you read to your child as often as you can and that you strive to have at least one scheduled reading time each day. Choosing regular times to read, especially before naps and bedtime, is a way to help your child learn to sit with a book and relax. But you can read anytime your child seems in the mood.

If your toddler will let you, hold him on your lap when you read. It’s a great spot for:
…Helping your child feel safe, happy and relax
…Giving undivided attention
…Showing new things
…Inviting participation

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You will find that your toddler has a mind of his own and wants to be independent and successful. Nurture these instincts by offering three or four books to choose from, praising your child’s selection, letting your toddler help you turn pages and asking for help as you find things on a page. Your child will love to finish sentences in books with repetitive phrasing or rhymes.